Since my last post the world has gone a little bit crazier, and finding time to write has been difficult. I have had my fair share of battles in the last year. It has been testing times, but I don’t complain I have learned, grown, and become a stronger version of myself.

One of the reasons the blog was on hold was a bit of restructuring of my priorities, as a father of a 6-year-old I did the math and everything pointed to the same answer, my boy needs me, and I need to prioritize him above all.

I recently read the book Bringing up boys by James C Dobson. It is a great book, and his understanding of raising boys is impressive. One of the things that stood out for me was “Rules without relationship lead to rebellion”.

It is easy to make up rules for your kids and enforce them like a dictator. But getting them to understand that you want the best for them and building a healthy relationship and getting them to obey your rules because of said relationship is a bit more tricky. It takes time and effort. And that has been my main goal for the last couple of months.

The funny thing is that while the main goal is to build a rock-solid relationship with my son, most of the work is within myself. If you had the idea of some movie reel of father and son activities that is all fun, emotional, and heart-warming, you are mistaken. It has mostly been me fighting battles against things I thought I have overcome, doing things I don’t feel like doing, and me slaying childhood demons so I can be a present father. Don’t get me wrong the reward is priceless. And some fun has been made along the way, but there is so much more work to be done. Endless battles are waiting, and I embrace every one of them because victory is waiting!

I will share some of my experiences soon, so stick around.

One of the things I have noticed recently was If you make the statement “men are not what they use to be” almost everybody will agree. And almost everybody has an opinion on the subject. The undertone of weak men is a subliminal concern in most minds. Unfortunately, this is where it stays a concern. No action is taken, and no plan is made. We complain about it aimlessly as if there is no medication for the pandemic of weakness killing men. It is most frustrating. Because there is a cure!

The cure however is where most run from the subject. Because you must embrace traditional Masculinity and most people don’t like that. Strong dangerous men fighting for what is right is not acceptable in this fucked up woke culture world we see today.

Men lost their way, and if you are the one saying men should get back to being strong, honorable, brave, and dangerous well you are “the problem”. It is as if the world became blind and allergic to the truth.

This whole argument about being a strong man and raising strong boys cause 3 words to ramble around in my mind for quite some time. SAVE OUR SONS!

Read it again, SAVE OUR SONS. Take a minute to let it sink into your mind, there is urgency in the words. It is up to the fathers of today to save the future generation of men. But for us to save them we need to sort out our shit.

And again, this is where the problem lies. We accept our weaknesses and we fail to see that our weakness is what is killing our sons. Every father wants a strong son, every boy wants a strong father, every woman wants a strong husband as a man being strong is the only option you have, my grandfather knew this. But men today are full of excuses, we blame our fathers, we blame our genetics or the devil for our shortcomings, and it is killing our sons.  

The biggest killer of men under 45 is suicide. If that statistic does not wake you the fuck up I don’t know what will. Men have lost hope, they have lost their purpose and it’s because we gave weakness a seat at our table.

We must reject all forms of weakness in our lives. Every ounce of it. You must hate it wholeheartedly!!

You might think you don’t have any weaknesses but a proper inspection must be done before you can come to that conclusion. Weakness is a little bitch and it hides in plain sight. It’s sometimes hard to spot weakness, especially if you don’t want to see it. weakness and fear almost always walk together, and when it is difficult to spot weakness, fear will reveal it.

Weakness has many forms, and I will touch on it in future writings. One of its many faces and one I had to deal ith recently was avoidance. And since I had to wrestle with it, I now see it everywhere.

Truth be told most men know what they are supposed to do. But they avoid it. Because we are afraid of either the outcome or what others might think of us. Often many men have a worst-case scenario mentality, and by telling themselves the worst possible outcome they avoid doing what is right. In most cases and from personal experience telling the truth, doing what is difficult and what is right rarely leads to destruction.

We avoid it with the hope that the problem, whatever it is, will resolve itself magically and disappear, but it’s quite the opposite. Avoidance creates monsters. it makes the problem ten times worse. You will then have to fight harder, work longer, and suffer more to resolve said problem.

For us to eliminate weakness and save our sons we must Start by doing the things we have avoided. Have that difficult conversation with yourself, your wife, your son, or your father. Stop procrastinating hoping the issue will just resolve by itself, it will not! Take Action and reject the weakness of avoidance and fear!

As Strong Men, we can solve the impossible, create order from the chaos, and triumph over evil. But it starts within us. if you remember who you are, what you are made of, and who created you, nothing can stop you. Do it for our sons and their sons.

THE STRONG

I mean to make myself a man, and if I succeed in that I shall succeed in everything else.

– James A Garfield